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Confirmation Bias

Good morning. 😊 It is Tuesday, August 31, 2021


Phil Lord once said “You always risk people misunderstanding you when you say anything.”


If we write our thoughts and feelings, it becomes even more possible for misunderstandings.


One of the hardest burdens to bear, for me anyway, is being misunderstood by other people, especially if I care deeply for that person. When I am misunderstood by people I love, it breaks my heart.


I have always had this desire in me to please people. I do not think of myself as a “people-pleaser” but there is something that lives deep inside me that wants people to be happy when they are around me. It has always been there. I want people to be at ease around me. I want people to know I am trustworthy. I want people to recognize the sacrifices I make for them. I want people to like me. Quite simply, I deeply desire to be understood.


I have recently been misunderstood. My actions have been twisted and unkind things have been said about me and to me. My knee-jerk reaction is “defense.” I want to defend myself. I want others to defend me. I want the truth to be apparent with no doubt about my intentions or words.


How we respond to being misunderstood will make all the difference between spending time trying to correct other people's misperceptions or being free to carry on with your life no matter what others think of you. The latter can be very difficult for me.


But why do people misunderstand in the first place? There can be varying reasons.


1) If the other person is emotionally upset with you, whatever you say (or write) is likely to be taken unfavorably.


2) The other person is strong-willed and rigid; has stringent opinions; or cannot “take in” any viewpoint other than their own.


3) Confirmation Bias



Confirmation bias is something I just read about today. It is a cognitive bias that causes people to search for, favor, interpret, and recall information in a way that confirms their preexisting beliefs. It influences people’s judgment and decision-making in many areas of life.


For example, a person with confirmation bias is someone who searches online to supposedly check whether a belief that they have is correct but ignores or dismisses all the sources that state that it’s wrong.


Another example of confirmation bias is someone who forms an initial impression of a person, and then interprets everything that this person does in a way that confirms this initial impression.


It affects the way people view political information. For example, people generally prefer to spend more time looking at information that supports their political stance and less time looking at information that contradicts it.


It affects the way scientists conduct research. For example, scientists often display the confirmation bias when they selectively analyze and interpret data in a way that confirms their preferred hypothesis.


It can affect the way medical professionals diagnose patients. For example, doctors often search for new information in a selective manner that will allow them to confirm their initial diagnosis of a patient, while ignoring signs that this diagnosis could be wrong. - effectiviology.com


Don’t let your emotions dictate how you process information. And, Jeanette, don’t be so quick to try and defend yourself. We need to take it to God in prayer.


“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3 ESV

I can remember being told to take a deep breath and count to 10 before responding. We are told to ‘sleep on it’ before making any rash decisions. The same should be true for replying or responding to things that bother us.


When we are misunderstood, as painful as it is, we must remind ourselves that we are in good company. Jesus was terribly misunderstood. People accused Him of being evil and sinful. He lived a life of love, gentleness, and miracles and yet He was accused of blasphemy.


Jesus understands our struggles. He understands our hurts. He feels your wounded heart. He gets us! He knows every little detail.


So, if you have been misunderstood by someone you love and care about, take it to Jesus. Jesus will never misunderstand you.


“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 ESV



I am reminded of one of my favorite songs, “Give Them All to Jesus”.


“Are you tired of chasing pretty rainbows

Are you tired of spinning round and round

Wrap up all the shattered dreams of your life

And at the feet of Jesus lay them down


Give them all

Give them all

Give them all to Jesus

Shattered dreams, wounded hearts, broken toys

Give them all

Give them all

Give them all to Jesus

And he will turn your sorrows into joy


He never said you'd only see sunshine

He never said there'd be no rain

He only promised us a heart full of singing

At the very thing that once brought pain


Give them all

Give them all

Give them all to Jesus

Shattered dreams, wounded hearts, broken toys

Give them all

Give them all

Give them all to Jesus

And he will turn your sorrows into joy”

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